Adopting Caroline

Chinese New Year Celebration

2012-01-29T00:42:00.000-05:00

Ready to go to the CNY celebration

Fantastic dragon cake!

Malia, Delaney, Bella, Caroline, and Chloe....the China Dolls

And we thought we could get ALL the kids to pose for a picture....

what were we thinking?

Caroline Turns 4-years-old - We Enjoy Her Birthday and Attend Another Party

2012-01-07T23:53:00.001-05:00

Caroline poses before her birthday party starts

Caroline and her friends at her birthday party

The party had a wild animal theme - as requested by the birthday girl

Jan 7 - ready for Delaney's birthday party

All of the China Dolls except for Delaney

Caroline wants to play the violin - trying out this toy violin

A winning smile!

Christmas Eve

2011-12-24T23:26:00.002-05:00

Mommy and Caroline following Christmas Eve services

Aunt Darlene (Nana), Grandma (Nai-Nai), Caroline, and Mommy

Latest Pics of Caroline

2011-11-25T22:38:00.001-05:00

Here are pics of Caroline taken Nov 25, 2011

She is almost 4-years-old.

At preschool during Thanksgiving week, she was asked what

she is thankful for, and Caroline responds, 'when Jesus saved me.'

Her favorite cartoons are 'Martha Speaks' and 'Dinasaur Train.'

Her favorite phrase (right now) is "Oh....my.....gosh"

Caroline loves her tap dance class. She also loves shows like

"Dancing With the Stars" and "X-Factor"

She is my sweet Caroline.

2nd Anniversary of Gotcha Day 2011 at OneTrueMedia.com

2011-09-19T22:22:00.001-04:00

We celebrate our Gotcha Day on September 21. We have been a forever family for two wonderful years!

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First Bike

2011-09-11T22:57:00.001-04:00

After seeing Caroline riding a bike at her preschool, it was clear

that I needed to get her a bike. She picked out a pink and purple one.

She's a happy girl...proud of her helmut, too.

"Mommy, take one more picture of me."

Gladly.

Update

2011-08-30T16:03:00.001-04:00

I haven't posted much text in quite a while....mainly pictures of Caroline. I thought I would take a moment to write some random thoughts about Caroline and her growth and development at this point in her life at 3 1/2-years, after being home from China for almost 2 years. I am continually amazed at her awareness of the world around her. She absolutely loves preschool, which she affectionately calls 'Bible Church'....this came about due to the fact that her preschool is housed at our church....she noticed that Vacation Bible School was held at the same place as her preschool, so started calling preschool 'Bible School'.....then she came to the realization that we attended church at the same building as her preschool...hence, she started calling preschool 'Bible Church.' She knows her colors, numbers and letters. She is counting up to about 25. She loves to 'read' books....I'm thinking that she'll ACTUALLY start to read before too long. She has taken tap dancing class for a year and will begin her 2nd year of study next week....she LOVES to dance. Her favorite cartoons are 'Dinosaur Train', 'Sid the Science Kid', and 'Curious George'. She is fascinated with wild animals such as lions and tigers. She is fascinated with race cars. We are STILL trying to conquer potty training, but I know she's close....right now it's 'hit and miss.' I am enrolling her in Suzuki violin class this fall because she keeps talking about the violin, and I don't prompt her. You might think that I talk to her about it because I am a music educator....but she has asked about the violin for several months on her own. Her hair has grown to below her shoulders which makes me so happy....on Gotcha Day her head was shaved....all I could do was dream about what she would look like with long hair. I think that she doesn't like to disappoint me....I will have to watch this characteristic as years go by....I want her to feel free to make mistakes and not be ashamed if she isn't perfect. I'm afraid she'll be a perfectionist like me....which has it ups and downs. Caroline is not afraid to be 'rough and tumble' with the boys, but also enjoys putting on a frilly dress with a bow in her hair...and she is very 'matchy-matchy'.....she always wants her shoes and bow to match her clothes....can't imagine where she gets that. She loves to talk about her 'mei-mei'....her little sister who will be coming from Africa in a few months. I love Caroline more and more every day....and am constantly checking myself to make sure I'm doing my very best for her. I don't want to let her down in any way. Caroline, words cannot possibly express how much I love YOU!

Dinner With Some of the China Travel Group!

2011-07-30T16:55:00.000-04:00

Hugs between Jackson and Caroline

Hugs between Caroline and Violet

Mommy and Caroline

Caroline, Violet, Jackson, Elizabeth, and Collin

Because we were making a trip to the St. Louis area for a few days, we organized a get-together with some of our September 09 China travel group. It was so good to see them! We wish that we could have had the entire group together. The kids just 'literally' embraced each other, and seemed to genuinely enjoy each other. They are growing up so fast!

June 2011 Photo Shoot (continued)

2011-07-20T00:06:00.002-04:00

This is another photo taken of Caroline last month.

She takes a pretty nice picture, I think.

I also like her serious pictures.....you can see her eyes

and her beautiful lips.

Children's Hope International Adoption Reunion Picnic - Chicago 2011

2011-07-19T09:13:00.001-04:00

At the picnic...Caroline is hungry and needing a nap...

this equals a grumpy girl.

Caroline (lower left) kept her distance

but enjoyed seeing the Chicago Mounted Police

She's fascinated with the horses...

but won't get close enough to pet them.

Caroline loves her sunglasses

Rhonda and Violet were in our China travel group,

and we enjoyed an evening together at Giordano's

and deep dish pizza!

Caroline and Annabelle enjoying the hotel pool

Me, Caroline, Annabelle and her mommy, Violet and Rhonda

Latest Photo Shoot

2011-07-02T23:38:00.000-04:00

These photos were taken on June 20th....more to come.

Rehearsing for First Dance Recital

2011-05-26T12:22:00.007-04:00

Caroline will dance in the number "Get Your Jammies On"

I think she'll be comfortable on stage. She definitely knows how to pose.

My Sweet Caroline

Perhaps 'pointe' is in her future

Mother's Day 2011

2011-05-08T18:01:00.000-04:00

I am SO blessed to be a mom. For so many years, I thought that I would never be a mom.....I've never married and have been career-oriented. I have finally found a balance in my life. I still love to be a professor and work with university students.....but my main purpose in life is to be a mom. I could not be more excited for that! Here are some pictures from today's Mother's Day celebration.

Caroline and Mommy at the Hostess House following Mother's Day Brunch

Caroline is showing off her Mother's day duds

Grandma, Caroline, and Mommy

CHI Waiting Child Video Includes Caroline

2011-05-07T20:47:00.003-04:00

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/homelandtours/then_now.swf

Watch this video......it targets prospective adoptive parents....shows before and after pictures of waiting children that have been adopted. Caroline is shown in one of the before and after pics.

Easter Sunday 2011

2011-05-06T23:57:00.006-04:00

At church, following the Easter Egg hunt

Caroline, Nai-Nai (Grandma), and Higgins

All ready for church

Caroline and Mommy

China Dolls Playdate

2011-03-11T16:39:00.000-05:00

Bella, Caroline, and Malia (we missed you, Chloe!)

The girls enjoyed their March playdate!

We are blessed to have other China adoptive families close by.

Happy Valentine's Day!

2011-02-11T23:14:00.001-05:00

Caroline and Grandma

Caroline is growing both physically and socially. She constantly amazes me with her questions and answers. She is very loving and says "I love Mommy" quite often, which melts my heart. She is getting closer to being potty-trained, but that seems to be our biggest hurdle right now. I think that she doesn't want to give up being Mommy's baby. She is such a wonderful gift from God and I am truly blessed.

Chinese New Year Celebration 2011

2011-01-29T23:35:00.001-05:00

All ready to go to the Chinese New Year Celebration in Wabash, IN

Bella and Caroline (holding church offering collection bags - the celebration was held at a church....I think they actually made a little money with this!)

The China and Taiwan girls (and one boy!) with a big sister adopted from Khazakstan

Favorite Phrases

2011-01-29T00:54:00.000-05:00

Caroline's vocabulary keeps expanding on a daily basis. I don't always understand everything that she says, but I would say that I understand 90% of what she ways. She is also very expressive in terms of facial expression and hand gestures.....so cute. There are many times that I wish I had a hidden video cam to get some of this on video. Her favorite phrase right now is "that'll work!" Examples: she eats her mashed potatoes with a 'kiddy' knife..."that'll work!" She helps set the table (I fight the temptation of re-setting the table) and she says, "that'll work!" Her other much-used phrase is "I love it." Examples: taste-testing her breakfast food..."I love it."........putting her blue jeans on...''I love it".........watching her favorite DVD..."I love it." Another one.......she recently went to the movie theater for the first time and saw the movie "Tangled." She calls the movies at the theater a "big DVD" while spreading her arms out to indicate 'big.' The phrase that I use most often these days is 'LIFE IS GOOD!'

Fun in the Snow

2011-01-28T00:24:00.000-05:00

We tried to build a snowman but the snow was too dry.

Makin' a snow angel

All bundled up in several layers

Fundraiser for Adoption No. 2 from Central Africa - Feb 6

2011-01-13T17:35:00.002-05:00

Adoption Fundraiser - Amway Party - Feb 6

I REALIZE THAT MOST OF YOU LIVE FAR FROM THE PARTY LOCATION, BUT YOU CAN STILL PARTICATE AND HELP THE ADOPTION CAUSE VIA THE WEBSITE! I AM IN THE PROCESS OF ADOPTING MY SECOND DAUGHTER....THIS TIME FROM CENTRAL AFRICA. I HAVE RAISED SOME FUNDS, BUT NEED TO RAISE APPROXIMATELY $22,000 TO COMPLETE THE ADOPTION.

For those that live far away, you can go to the following website to place an order: www.amway.com/sspettis

Happy 3rd Birthday to My Sweet Caroline

2011-01-05T01:08:00.000-05:00

New Year's Eve has always been a fun day....spending time with family and/or friends. Now, it is even more special because Caroline's birthday is on New Year's Eve. I can't believe that she is three-years-old. She is growing so fast. We spent her birthday in Kansas City with family members, and had a great time. We celebrated with an 'Elmo' themed party. Caroline is crazy for Elmo, so it was obvious that we needed to have an Elmo cake and decorations. I will post pictures soon. What a wonderful day we had.

Christmas Time!

2010-12-13T23:22:00.000-05:00

A successful photo session with Santa!

Caroline is in her 'concert attire' before going to Momma's children's choir concert

Caroline and Momma are ready to go to Momma's university Christmas concert

Ready to go to church in another Christmas dress

October 2010 Photos

2010-11-02T15:20:00.000-04:00

Here is Caroline at 34-months-old. She's a happy girl and seems to love her life. I love having her in my life.

'My Momma, Right There'

2010-10-07T00:29:00.000-04:00

Caroline says something about five times a day. She looks at me and says "My momma, right there" and points to me. She says the same to Grandma, and to our doggie Higgins. She also says, "my home." Caroline seems to gain great pleasure in affirming this on a daily basis. She absolutely warms my heart.

Celebrating Our Gotcha Day!

2010-09-26T22:17:00.004-04:00

The moment that I held Caroline for the very first time.

Overcome with emotion

And, one year later!

Momma and Caroline

Grandma and Caroline

Our wonderful friends celebrating at Hong Kong Restaurant

We had a wonderful celebration of our Gotcha Day. I can't believe it has been one year since I adopted my beautiful daughter Caroline on Sept 21, 2009. I've posted a picture of that day, and also pictures of our Gotcha Day celebration with our friends. What a magificent day Sept 21, 2009 was! That day was surreal. I was meeting my daughter for the very first time. I had dreamed of that day for such a long time.....lived in my dreams so many times. It was better that I had dreamed. Caroline is the joy of my life and can't imagine life without her.

One Year Ago Today We Boarded a Plane for China

2010-09-16T22:02:00.000-04:00

View of Guangzhou from the China Hotel

Our Hotel Room on the 17th floor

The China Hotel

The crib was set up in our room when we arrived *tears*

One year ago at this moment, Mom and I were sitting at the Chicago O'Hare airport gate waiting for our flight to Seoul, South Korea, then on to Guangzhou. I was experiencing so many emotions that night....excitement, fear, disbelief that it was really happening....and probably a bit of fear. It is interesting that I am experiencing these same emotions all over again as I re-live the experience. That trip was the most important trip that I have ever taken in my life; it changed my world in the most wonderful way. I love Caroline more than anything in this world and my heart is full.

Final Post-Adoption Home Visit Done - New Homestudy Started for Adoption No. 2

2010-09-06T21:55:00.000-04:00

Last Friday was our final post-adoption home visit for Caroline. I wasn't the least bit worried....not because I'm such a confident mom, but because our social worker makes us feel so at ease. I just love him. He played with Caroline - mainly letting her trace his hand on paper and watched her 'write' our names on paper. He also played ball with her a little bit, and he asked me several questions about her progress. It went fine! Then, he gave me a stack of paperwork to do for the the new homestudy for adoption no. 2. I'm not quite so stressed about it this time around. It will still require several hours of work but I've done it before so I can do it again. Also, I will be starting a new blog for daughter no. 2, who shall be named Claudia Ashlyn (insert African name) Lessly. I will be adopting my second daughter from the Democratic Republic of Congo in Central Africa. I'm very excited about this next step in my life's journey. I believe that this is what God wants me to do. He has opened more than one door for this to happen. It was also nice to hear my social worker agree that it is a 'good thing' and thinks this will be great for Caroline.

I Think We've Conquered Another Fear - The Visit to the Doctor

2010-08-26T23:01:00.000-04:00

In two days time we have visited a pediatric dentist and a nurse practitioner.

Previous visits to the doctor have been somewhat traumatic for Caroline. I'm sure that it has to do with the fact that she spent the first two months of her life in a hospital. At previous visits to the pediatrician, Caroline has clung to me and become almost hysterical. But, I think we've turned a corner. Our visit to the new dentist and to the new nurse practitioner were painless and almost fun. It also helps that in both situations, the doctor and practitioner made an effort to get to know Caroline before an examination. This was such a relief to me. It just makes sense that a pediatric health care provider would know to get acquainted and make Caroline feel more comfortable. Thank you, God, for these two professionals who provided such a safe and comfortable environment for Caroline.

Caroline's Prayer

2010-08-21T15:15:00.000-04:00

Caroline is the first one to say 'pray' when we sit down to eat. She has been saying the prayer on occasion and this morning she said the prayer for breakfast. Normally, all we could understand was 'God" and 'Amen" but today she spoke more clearly. Her words were "Dear God, eat our food, amen." I think she was trying to say, Dear God, thank you for this food that we are about to eat." She amazes me every day.

Progress in Potty Training!

2010-08-21T00:22:00.000-04:00

Caroline's preschool teacher has told me that Caroline has 'tried' the potty.....taking her diaper off and actually sitting on the potty chair while at preschool. Up to now, Caroline wouldn't go near the potty chair at home and would cry. But tonight, she actually took her diaper off and sat on the potty chair here at home! Now, she didn't 'do' anything on the chair, but this is HUGE progress.

Precious Words from Caroline

2010-08-16T15:59:00.001-04:00

Yesterday, as we were sitting around the table, Caroline says, "I happy." We asked again, because we had not heard her say the word 'happy' before. I said, "are you saying the word happy?" Caroline shakes her head yes. She says, "I happy. Momma happy (touching me on the shoulder). Nai-Nai (grandma) happy (touching her on the shoulder)." What precious words to hear. Also, almost daily she has said "My home. Momma home. Nai-Nai home. My home." And lastly, she says almost daily, "My momma. My Nai-Nai." Yes, Caroline, we are totally yours.

First Day Back at Preschool and She is Bitten!

2010-08-11T21:34:00.000-04:00

Caroline is ready for her first day back to Westminster Preschool

There's the smile!

Here is evidence of two 'boy bites'. Bless her heart.

So we ended the day with some wonderful corn-on-the-cob and homegrown tomatoes.

Today would have been a great first day of preschool.....great teacher.....great activities.....lots of learning....but apparently, Caroline's arm got in the way of a little boy's teeth during playtime. Preschool can be dangerous. After the teacher showed me the 'accident report' and profusely apologized, she said that Caroline was a little trooper and after the initial cry, she was fine. That's my girl. And that little boy better leave my little girl alone :)

My Girl is Growing Too Fast

2010-07-27T00:18:00.002-04:00

Caroline is learning and growing so much. I couldn't be more pleased with her progress. I think the only thing that I wish for is a smoother 'potty-training' process. But, she's only 2 1/2 so I'm not going to sweat it. This week Caroline is in vacation bible school and loving it. She is a social butterfly, very inquisitive, her english improves and expands every day, and she is a happy girl. What more could I ask for?

June 2010 Photo Shoot

2010-07-20T00:34:00.005-04:00

Fun at World Music Drumming 'Camp'

2010-07-04T17:23:00.002-04:00

We just completed a week at the World Music Drumming Workshop in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin. I have been attending this workshop for the past 10 years and I was FINALLY able to take my daughter .... everyone has known about the adoption process and each year would ask, "when will you get Caroline?" This year, Caroline (and Grandma) went with me. She is now part of the drumming family and had a terrific time. So did Momma.

The English is Exploding

2010-06-24T21:27:00.004-04:00

Favorite words:
Mine....No....Home....Oh,Wow....Higgins (that's our dog)...outside....write....round...one-two....nightgown.
Favorite sentences:
"Momma, I want that!"
"Momma, I do it!"

Precious Moment at Preschool

2010-06-22T13:42:00.002-04:00

Yesterday when I picked Caroline up from preschool, her teacher stopped me and wanted to tell me about 'what happened.' She started to tear up as she began to tell me....... As a classmate of Caroline's was on the floor (he must have fallen and must have been crying), she went over to him, touched him on the shoulder, got on her knees, put her hands in a praying posture and began an audible prayer. The teacher said that she didn't understand any of the words except for 'amen' at the end. Then, Caroline got up and resumed playing. I'm constantly amazed at this blessing of a daughter. I had to shed a tear, too, when I heard the story.

New Photos from 'Studio de Sears'

2010-06-15T00:17:00.002-04:00

Had a Bad Night's Sleep

2010-06-13T23:13:00.008-04:00

Last night was a tough night for Caroline. She finally fell asleep (after rocking and bottle) at around 10:30 p.m.....trust me, that is really late for her. Then, at around 12:30 a.m., she woke up crying. Unfortunately, I had not gone to bed yet and as soon as I heard her I went to her room. When I looked down at her I got the very strong feeling that she had a bad dream, OR....perhaps she was dreaming about her life before she became my baby girl. This was a different cry, a sad cry. So, I picked her up and just rocked her for a long time. I repeatedly told her how much I loved her and that she was safe with Momma. At those moments she just looked at me and nodded her head in approval. I tried putting her in bed with me but she was SO restless. Finally, at 3:15 am she decided that she wanted to get back in her bed. This morning she was fine. Oh, to know what's going on in that precious little head of hers.

My Mom

2010-05-30T15:27:00.003-04:00

I hope I look this good when I'm 80. These pics were taken in February, so Caroline has grown a bit since then...but I wanted to share.

Caroline at the Westminster Preschool Program - May 28, 2010

2010-05-28T23:53:00.004-04:00

8 Month Anniversary of Gotcha Day

2010-05-26T23:54:00.005-04:00

We recently celebrated the 8-month anniversary of Gotcha Day on May 21. This was the most amazing day of my life. I had anticipated this moment for such a long time that when it finally happened it was a bit surreal....and it happened so fast. On this day, Caroline cried for quite awhile (which I totally expected), then became very withdrawn. She wanted to be held constantly (I didn't mind one bit) and had a sad look on her face for about 4 days. She had a cold and a bit of a fever. She wouldn't play with toys or interact with other kids. On day 5 she finally started to play with toys and started to grin and give me a sly look. Her personality finally started to shine through. She ate like a horse and it was clear that she didn't know what it felt like to be 'full.' Each meal took a very long time in order for us to demonstrate that she could eat everything that she wanted....that we wouldn't take the food away from her before she was ready. Now, her eating habits are normal and she has blossomed into an amazing child who is healthy, happy, and smart. She is a social butterfly....loves preschool....loves to play with other kids.....even has a little boyfriend named Riley at preschool. She is a girlie-girl and loves to dress up. She loves to play 'waitress' and loves to figure out how things are put together. Her comprehension of the english language is so good...and her ability to verbally communicate with the english language improves every day. I am so blessed. Blessed beyond words. I still have to pinch myself that she is really mine.

Family Time in Missouri

2010-05-16T16:09:00.003-04:00

We have been with some of our family members for cousin Tori's graduation from Drury University. Last night was the graduation party. Caroline enjoyed playing with several cousins....all boys....there were no little girls for her to play with! She loved playing with the 'Nintendog' game....totally mezmerized. I smiled and enjoyed watching Caroline interact with the boys and watching the boys be so gentle with her.

A Special Mother's Day

2010-05-10T22:31:00.003-04:00

This was my first Mother's Day as a mommy. For many years I have dreaded the holiday, except to celebrate my own mom. The holiday always made me feel inadequate as a woman and caused me to feel different/odd/strange because I didn't 'have' what the other women had. I will always understand how women with no children feel on Mother's Day. I will always seek out that woman and give her a hug, because I 'understand.' But for me, this year was so special because I am FINALLY a mommy. My daughter gave me hugs and kisses and seemed to know that Sunday was a special day. She also gave Grandma a few extra hugs. I feel blessed beyond words. The picture above includes from L to R: my mom, Caroline, me, and our good friend Myrna. We enjoyed a wonderful lunch at the Hostess House.

A Modeling Career?

2010-05-06T23:36:00.003-04:00

Caroline is working her inner model as she poses for this picture. AND....she will actually be modeling this line of clothing for the daddyos.com clothing company! Our neighbors next door gave Caroline this dress and actually own the online clothing company that sells them. So, after our neighbor saw Caroline in this dress, she asked if Caroline could be a model for their website. YES!

Two Thumbs Up

2010-05-03T23:51:00.004-04:00

Caroline's preschool teachers must do a 'two thumbs up' and say 'good job' a lot. Today, after I said 'good job!' to her, she looked at me, gave me a 'two thumbs up' and said "GOOD JOB!!" Too cute. Her teachers also told me that she LOVES to do paper mache. I have a feeling that I'll be doing lots of art projects this summer. I better get going on that....my summer break started today. YAY!

"I Want That"

2010-04-30T01:00:00.004-04:00

Caroline has a favorite sentence right now....."I want that!" And, she now points to herself and says 'me'.......she is definitely on target for a 2-year-old. Her english is really progressing, but she mainly speaks these new words at home with myself and Grandma, and at preschool. I am anxious for her to use these words in front of our friends and family. What a joy she is. Life is GOOD.

Summer Break is Almost Here!

2010-04-30T00:54:00.002-04:00

I am really excited that the semester is almost over (Baccalaureate and Graduation this weekend) and I can spend REAL time with Caroline. My teaching load has been fine (generally speaking), but the end of the semester is crazy busy. Because of this schedule I haven't been able to spend much time with Caroline. I love my job.....and I love the vacation time that my job gives me.....a 4-month long summer break. I'm very blessed.

She Likes to Pose

2010-04-11T00:59:00.003-04:00

No words are really necessary......as you can see, Caroline likes to pose for pictures.

Caroline's First Easter Celebration

2010-04-06T21:49:00.004-04:00

Caroline is 'cheesin' for the camera.

Momma, Caroline, and Grandma at Sheila's house in Quincy, IL on Easter Sunday afternoon.

Since I made the decision to adopt, it was necessary for me to occasionally purchase 'things' for my daughter....someone who I loved in my heart....but someone that was unknown to me. I needed tangible things to make her real. About 3 years ago I bought a size 2T dress that would be perfect for Easter. It has hung in my daughter's bedroom closet for 3 years now. I would look at that dress, even hold that dress and dream about my little girl wearing it. This past weekend my dream came true. Caroline wore it for Easter. It was a very special day for me, not just because we celebrated the Resurrection, but I celebrated my dream coming true. This made God so real to me. He honors the desires of our hearts. What a wonderful God we serve.

Easter Program at Westminster Preschool

2010-03-31T22:04:00.006-04:00

This is Caroline's very first program at preschool.....the first of many performances, I'm sure.

Here she is waving the palms.

More playdate photos

2010-03-29T23:05:00.003-04:00

L to R: Bella, Chloe, Malia, and Caroline receiving their Easter baskets prepared by Bella's mom.

Caroline and Bella

Chloe, Caroline, and Chloe's momma

Chloe, Caroline, and Bella playing with blocks at their monthly playdate.

Here are a few more pictures of the 'China Girls' at last Friday's playdate. Such precious girls.

Easter Egg Hunt with the China Girls

2010-03-29T14:38:00.003-04:00

At our recent playdate with the 'China Girls', Bella's momma prepared an Easter egg hunt in the playroom.....she definitely made it easy for the girls to find the eggs. This was a whole new experience for Caroline.

The Clapping Song

2010-03-15T23:14:00.003-04:00

Caroline loves to sing songs from her Aunt Annie's Baby Sing and Sign book/CD. Here, she is doing the motions to 'The Clapping Song', one of her favorites. It seems that she is a bit shy when she knows she's being videotaped, but at least she did some of the motions.

Grandma's Best Chocolate Chip Cookies

2010-03-13T22:09:00.003-05:00

Grandma made some wonderful chocolate chunk / oatmeal cookies. Caroline ate a few bites of cookie and you can see that she totally enjoyed it. What a nice Saturday afternoon activity.

Momma and Caroline Practicing "I Love You"

2010-03-01T14:54:00.003-05:00

Caroline's Baptism - Feb. 21, 2010

2010-03-01T14:31:00.007-05:00

Grandma and Caroline before the service started.

I'm directing the Heart of Indiana Children's Choir.

The baptism. L to R: Jim and Sue Sonnefield, Jim Coffman (Godfather), Anne Miller (Godmother), Gerry Lessly (Grandma), Caroline and 'Momma', and Paster Justin.

Pastor Justin baptizing Caroline.

Following the service: Grandma, Caroline, and Momma.

Sue Sonnefield, Grandma Gerry, Caroline, Chris, and Jim Sonnefield

At home following the baptism: Front - Caroline and Chris; back - Grandma Gerry, 'Uncle and Aunt' Ralph and Sheila Druffel, Emily Druffel, and 'Grandma' Esther Sherman. The Druffels and Esther Sherman came from Quincy, IL.

We had a wonderful day of worship at Westminster Presbyterian Church. My children's choir was there to sing, friends and family came from long distances to be there, and many friends from our previous church came to support us. I was also so pleased to see several former and current IWU students there. Thanks to all that came to share this very special day with us. Caroline didn't seem to be too upset with having Pastor Justin place sprinkle water on her head. The only thing she did was touch her hair after the baptism as if to say, what did you do to my hair? After the service, some family members had to leave to catch a flight out of Indianapolis, but several came to the house to enjoy a meal and fellowship with us. A very memorable day!

Latest Pictures

2010-02-09T22:58:00.004-05:00

Last weekend I took Caroline to the photographer to have new pictures taken in her baptismal dress (that was purchased while in China), a dress that she will wear to her Grandma's 80th birthday celebration, and another cute 'panda' outfit. I think they turned out really well...very pleased. We are looking forward to Feb 20-21 when we celebrate Mom's 80th birthday with an open house and on Sunday the 21st, Caroline will be baptized.

Life: January 2010

2010-01-31T22:13:00.005-05:00

Life has been good so far in 2010. Caroline started preschool at Westminster Presbyterian and she seems to love it. She really enjoys church as Westminster as well. Everyone has embraced her and loves her. I started back to work (teaching at IWU). That is going well except for the fact that I just don't get enough 'Caroline time' on some days. Below are some pictures of special days in January.

Caroline is ready for her first day of preschool.

Caroline seems to be joining right in with playing on her first day of preschool.

Library time at preschool - Caroline's first day.

Playdate with Caroline's friends Bella and Malia. We meet about once per month for the girls to play.

Caroline's first basketball game at IWU.

Caroline is cheering for the Colts to win the Super Bowl.

Pictures of New Year's Eve / Caroline's 2nd Birthday Party

2010-01-07T00:30:00.003-05:00

I decided that Caroline's birthday party would have the "Red Thread Legend" theme. The decorations fit it with all of the existing Christmas decorations and it provided everyone an opportunity to become familiar with the legend, something that is SO familiar to those in the China adoption community.

The dining room decorations include some beautiful 'China' ornaments that were given to me by BJ in Kansas City.

The Red Thread Legend

More Pics of New Year's Eve / Caroline's 2nd Birthday Party 2009

2010-01-07T00:22:00.004-05:00

The 'Red Thread' Cake

Caroline is dressed and ready for her birthday party. I just now realized that I dressed her in an outfit that has the Eiffel Tower on her sweater.....why didn't I dress her in a Chinese Silk dress? Oh, well.

Look at that face!

A room full of gifts. Caroline is not real thrilled with the boa that was put around her neck.

Caroline loves her birthday cake and ice cream.

Pictures from Christmas 2009

2010-01-07T00:13:00.003-05:00

Caroline and Momma

Caroline displaying her wonderful smile / laugh

Caroline helps to do the finishing touches on the Christmas tree in the living room.

Chris, Caroline, Tori, and Nana in Kansas City

Caroline opens one of many Christmas gifts in Kansas City.

More Pictures from Christmas 2009

2010-01-07T00:00:00.005-05:00

Chris, Caroline and cousin Jill from Wichita

Aunt Annie giving Caroline a gift at our get-together at a Kansas City IHOP

Faith and Austin Kelly with Caroline at the Kansas City IHOP

Caroline is sporting her new 'Old Navy' winter cap from Faith and Austin after we returned

home from our trip to KC, Mo and Quincy, IL.

Chris and Caroline with childhood friends Sheila Druffel and Bruce Arnold in Quincy, IL

Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, and Happy Birthday, Caroline!

2010-01-05T16:47:00.003-05:00

It has been a LONG TIME since I last posted on the blog...sorry. But, now I am back home from our holiday travels and can resume a routine again. The last month has been so much fun. Caroline didn't really understand the 'Christmas or Birthday' celebrations, but she certainly enjoyed them. Since it seems that she has been receiving gifts since we returned home from China, the gifts at Christmas and her birthday didn't seem out of the norm for her..... though I don't think that she is at a place where she expects to get gifts. I think this holiday season was more for Momma and Grandma to enjoy.....it has been so much fun to watch her open gifts and interact with family and friends.

Caroline is now 2-years-old. Today, I took her to the Westminster Preschool to get the application packet. We also had a tour which wasn't all that necessary since my mom worked at the preschool several years ago and I was quite familiar with it. Caroline played with the kids that are in 'her class' and seemed to do OK. I guess we will start preschool next week. I plan to enroll her in the Mon/Tues/Wed morning sessions.

My next obstacle is to go back to school next week. My 'family leave' will end on January 11. While I have missed my students and colleagues, I have SO ENJOYED being at home with Caroline. This time with her has given me such a sense of satisfaction that I've never felt before. I am praying that God will make this a smooth transition. I have a feeling that it will be more difficult for me than for Caroline. I do have the benefit of having Grandma at home...I don't have to worry about daycare. Any preschool experience is optional, not a requirement. I don't have to worry about Caroline because I know she is in the best possible hands with her grandma.

Pictures are coming very soon!!!

Update on Caroline

2009-12-02T23:30:00.003-05:00

Caroline is saying more words in English these days! She can say 'button, book, balloon, eat, momma, and mamaw' without being prompted. She can repeat the words 'thank you, orange juice, and Jesus' when I prompt her. She still speaks long sentences in Cantonese. Caroline seems to be understanding what it feels like to be 'full' at mealtime. She no longer stuffs herself, and doesn't get stressed at the end of mealtime, easily handing her finished plate to me....that is HUGE. Caroline is getting more comfortable around my basset hound Higgins and lately she has been giving him kisses....she still doesn't like to get kisses from Higgins. Bathtime is getting better and better. Caroline has fun in the tub now....another HUGE bit of progress. She has gained approximately 5 lbs since Gotcha Day. She now weighs about 23 lbs and can wear most 18-month size clothing and a size 4 shoe. She sat through her first concert last night....the IWU Women's Chorus......Caroline didn't make a sound and seemed to be mesmerized the entire time. I continue to feel blessed beyond measure.

Caroline's First Studio Photo Shoot

2009-11-23T23:45:00.003-05:00

Caroline survived her first studio photo shoot. Last week I got a call from Sears telling me that I had won a free 10 x 13 portrait with no sitting fee. Of course, it was a ploy to get me in the studio so that I'd spend alot of money on a 'package'....well, it worked. I took the bait. I thought the pictures turned out pretty nicely....better than I expected. Here is a sampling of the pictures. So now the pressure is off to find a photographer....for a couple of months, at least.

Caroline's Bedroom

2009-11-16T23:17:00.005-05:00

Yesterday, I put up a small Christmas tree in Caroline's room and decorated it in butterfly ornaments (surprise, surprise). I put the tree up two years ago in her room...I didn't put it up at all last year... but for 'some' reason I was a bit more excited about it this year. I also got the changing table put together....thanks to Mark H....... and Caroline's bed is pretty much done. I'm including pictures and a short video clip of Miss C.

Caroline is Saying So Much...and I Don't Understand Her

2009-11-10T23:18:00.003-05:00

In the last few days Caroline has become more verbal. I would equate it to speaking complete sentences.....of course her sentences are in Cantonese, so I don't know what she's saying. Yesterday and today she has been telling Mom and I a story of some sort. She has included hand gestures that are so sweet. I'm so profoundly proud of her for displaying such a beautiful means of expression, yet so sad that I can't understand her. I'm determined to videotape her, but she tends to 'clam up' when she sees the video camera, so I've got to be sneaky about it.

The New Adventures of Caroline

2009-11-06T22:44:00.004-05:00

Today, the IWU Music Division faculty had a party for Caroline and I and we enjoyed food and fellowship with them. Caroline even decided to show off a little bit. I took her to my office for the very first time and she immediately went to the piano. I think she looks pretty natural at the piano. This week we also made a trip to Riley Hospital in Indianapolis for an appointment with a pediatric opthamologist. Her right eye 'wanders' then she is able to bring it back into focus pretty quickly. Good news from the doctor is that her eyesight is normal and things look good. He thinks that her eye will improve with time. He called her condition 'exotropia' and didn't seemed too concerned. We have another appointment in 3 months and if she hasn't improved, then she will either wear an eye patch over the good eye to strengthen the weak eye, or she might need surgery....either way, it can be treated. PTL. The other two pictures that are included on this post were taken by my cousin Ashley while we were in Kansas City.

Halloween with the Cousins in Kansas City

2009-11-04T00:39:00.004-05:00

We have just returned from our 'Meet Caroline Tour' with family and friends in Kansas, Missouri, and Illinois. We were gone for 11 days. Caroline got to spend her very first Halloween in Kansas City with her cousins Zane, 8, and Zacalen, 6. She was a butterfly (surprise, surprise) ...notice her 'squeeky shoes'......and sort of got the hang of how to do the trick-or-treating thing. For awhile she wanted to stop after each house and inspect the treats. And, she was holding up the 'pack' of trick-or-treaters, so she had to be carried to most houses. She had a good time....so did I.

Meet Caroline Tour

2009-10-26T22:51:00.004-04:00

Currently we are in Kansas City on the 'Meet Caroline Tour.' We are staying with my aunt and got to spend time with several cousins over the weekend. They are all falling in love with Caroline. Over the weekend we attended the baptism of my little cousin Braelyn....it was a beautiful ceremony. I look forward to next February when Caroline will be baptized. Unfortunately, I forgot to bring the attachment that allows me to download pictures to my computer and then to my blog. If I'm lucky, I can get one of my cousins to give me a cd of some of the pictures of Caroline.

Fall Pictures

2009-10-23T00:27:00.003-04:00

Thanks to my next door neighbor Nate Larson for taking these wonderful pictures yesterday afternoon at Matter Park. Nate and Dawnelle, and their daughters Halle and Kenzie went to the park with us. They will be moving in November and we will miss them.

She's a Multi-Tasker

2009-10-21T23:42:00.002-04:00

Caroline is trying on Grandma's shoes while attempting to rearrange the placement of the kitchen stools.

Here she is running her 'corn-popper' sweeper while talking on her new play cell phone.

I've decided that Caroline is a multi-tasker. Caroline is feeling more and more comfortable around the house. The last couple of days, when she has talked on her 'cell', she is definitely speaking Mandarin...... and it sounds like she is chewing someone out....what I would give to know what she is saying! Caroline is also understanding more and more English, though not speaking it....except to say 'Momma'......and today she said 'balloon'....we still have several helium balloons in the house from our welcome home gathering. So, every time that she points to a balloon, I say 'balloon.' She can speak it now. Sweet Caroline....life has never been so good!

Welcome Home Caroline Party

2009-10-18T22:27:00.003-04:00

Yesterday, a couple of former students hosted a "Welcome Home Caroline" party near the university campus. It was wonderful to see several former students, many of whom now have children of their own, as well as several friends. Amber and Sierra did a terrific job of planning the party...the decorations were lovely and the refreshments were delicious. You will also see a picture of Caroline in her new 'party dress'.....like I needed an excuse to buy Caroline a new dress! Sierra sang 'When Love Takes You In' by Steven Curtis Chapman while showing a slide show of my China trip. Then, Mom read a 'Letter to Caroline'.....which amazed me because Mom doesn't like to speak in front of people....knowing that, I appreciated her reading even more. What a nice day! Thanks Amber and Sierra....thank you Jennifer for your involved. I love those girls!

Who Needs Toys?

2009-10-18T22:17:00.004-04:00

While in Mom's closet last night, Caroline found one of the circular belt hangers on the floor. She picked it up, took the hook off and put the circular belt on her head (notice the red thing on her head). She then went to the empty tote that was sitting on the floor in Mom's bedroom and climbed in. Who needs toys? She thought that she was pretty darned amusing, as you can see by the pictures.

Doing What She Loves Best

2009-10-15T21:24:00.010-04:00

Eating one of the Gerber 'Toddler Meals'.....not a drop was left when she was done.

This morning at breakfast......rice cereal with peaches. She's pretty proud of how she feeds herself. Again, every drop was gone by the end of breakfast.

Caroline is sitting in her new chair that was hand-crafted by Dick Johnson from Westminster Church. This is one of her favorite 'hang-outs'....sitting near her 'kitchen' and reading the newspaper. If the TV is on, she sometimes sits in her chair and watches TV with her hands perched at her waist. She is so cute to watch.

I thought I would include some pictures of Caroline doing what she loves best......either eating or sitting and reading. Sometimes I have to turn the newspaper around so that it is not upside down, but nevertheless, Caroline loves to look at newspapers, magazines, or books. I can't get her to sit still long enough for me to actually read a book yet, but that will come soon, I think.

Yesterday was a traumatic day. It was her day to go to the pediatrician to be poked and prodded. I dreaded the day. As I expected, Caroline started screaming as soon as the nurse started to measure her head. I tried to make this 'trip' as fun as possible, but I think Caroline has too much 'baggage' when it comes to hospitals or doctor's offices. She spent the first few weeks of her life in a hospital being treated for congenital syphilis....she is fine now and has been cured for quite some time, but she just goes bonkers when she sees anything that resembles a nurse or doctor. She got four shots and had blood work done. The fact that we had to wait TWO HOURS to see the doctor didn't help matters. But, it is over.

I plan to make an appointment with the International Adoption Clinic at Riley Hospital in Indianapolis so that they can do a 'post-adoption assessment.' I want to get their perspective on her eating habits as well as her overall health and development. I also plan to make an appointment with a pediatric eye specialist in Indy. Her right eye strays occasionally, but she immediately pulls it back in to focus. I can tell that she sees well based on the details that she notices, but I'm thinking there is something sort of treatment that should happen.

What a blessing Caroline is to me. I still can't believe that she is my daughter and I'm her Momma. I am so fortunate to have her and she is an amazing blessing to me.

A Shower for Caroline

2009-10-11T21:56:00.002-04:00

Caroline is the center of attention

Notice that Caroline has a cookie in each hand.

We received some lovely and very generous gifts.

Caroline and I with Happi Stoffel and her mom Bekki Johnston, who hosted the shower.

Today was an excellent day......Caroline attended church for the very first time and we were the guests of honor at a baby shower hosted by Bekki Johnston and her daughter Happi Stoffel. They are neighbors as well as members of our church. We received very wonderful gifts from everyone. We SO APPRECIATE the outpouring of love from everyone!

New "Stuff" at the House

2009-10-10T21:07:00.006-04:00

Michael, Mark, and Nash assembling the 'kitchen'

Caroline playing with her new kitchen.

Caroline in her new winter attire in the new Jeep Stroller

Ready to take her first ride.

We have received two very nice gifts in the last couple of days. Thank you Michael, Sarah, Nash & Mark for the 'Homestyle Kitchen' that you delivered to the house and assembled last night. Caroline has already prepared several 'meals' in her kitchen and has 'fed' Mom and I several times.......she LOVES it, and so do I.

Thank you, Anne, for the very big and wonderful 'Jeep' stroller that we will use on a daily basis as long as the weather cooperates. I actually took it out of the box and assembled it myself today. Pictures will show Caroline in her new winter coat, hat, and gloves as we are about to take our first outing in the stroller. It even has an iPod attachment....again, LOVE it.

Caroline keeps verbalizing more and more. She is more fun than I ever imagined....I don't even mind it when she has her occasional meltdown. We get passed it as quickly as possible and move on.

Our biggest struggle at the moment is bath time. She literally screams when we get ready to take a bath. She loves taking a sponge bath when she can sit on the edge of the sink and have her feet in the water. I have no idea about this one....I'm hoping that when I get a 'toddler bath' that maybe she won't hate it as much.

Her 'cute factor' rose today when she starting giving 'high 5's', then gives a very big smile. I am also mesmerized by watching her play at her new kitchen....she stirs her spoon in the little pan then 'eats' from it. I love to see that she can pretend.

I'm so excited to go to church tomorrow. This will be Caroline's very first time in church, and I am so looking forward to sharing the love of Jesus with her....something that would not happen if she were to stay in China. I'm hoping that I can hold it together when I take her up to the front of the church for her very first children's sermon.

HOME: A New Daughter, Lots of Purchases, and a BUG!

2009-10-04T21:20:00.009-04:00

WE ARE HOME! We've been home since about 12:45 am on Thursday, Oct. 1. Let me begin by offering some humble thank-you's......to Jim and Sue Sonnefield for taking time to drive us to the airport on Sept 16 and picking us up when we returned. I also want to thank Myrna, Amanda, Lauren, Mark, and Mackenzie for meeting us at the house when we returned. What a nice surprise! Thank you to Heather for making the drive to O'Hare to greet us...that meant more than you can possible know. Thanks to my sweet cousin Ashley for posting on my blog for me while I was in China. I emailed all photos and texts to her and she took the time to post them. And my biggest thanks to my dear, dear friend Anne for making the trip to China with Mom and I....we could not have done this without YOU. No words can really express my gratitude to Anne....truly. I know there are more people to thank...but this will get things started.

I not only brought home a most precious daughter, lots of fun 'stuff' from China, but a nasty bug that was being passed around several people in my travel group. I'm very thankful that I waited until I got home to get sick. At least I could suffer in my own house! I am just now starting to feel human again after 4 days. I hate it that I had to miss church this morning. I was so looking forward to taking Caroline to church for the very first time. Well, that will happen next Sunday.

Things are going well here at home. Caroline is adapting well. She is sleeping pretty well.....she tends to wake up at around 2:30 am....I'll rock her back to sleep....then she wakes up about 4:00 am wanting to play. I understand that it will take several days for her (as well as Mom and I) to get adjusted to the time difference. Caroline continues to eat like a little piggy. I took her to the doctor on Friday because she has a cold.....we survived that visit. She thoroughly enjoys her new 'squeeky' shoes. These are shoes that purposefully 'squeek' when she walks. These shoes have encouraged her to walk...and walk...and walk. That's a good thing considering the fact that only days ago she refused to walk at all.

Caroline obviously has had experience with a TV remote. And, she thinks that she must get in the big recliner in order to work the remote. Since I have two remotes for the family room TV, I've taken the batteries out of one of them so that she can play with it. Also, she knows about cell phones. I gave her one of my old cell phones that I can still charge up...but it is not activated. She punches in some numbers, then puts the phone up to her ear. The big thing is that she has said 'Momma' twice. And she actually sings to herself....quite a nice little singing voice if I do say so for myself. She's playing peek-a-boo and is waving to everything in the house. Today, she found a little 'suitcase' (purse size) that she has carried around the house and waves to Mom and I. I've got to get this on video. Caroline is a wonderful miracle and blessing in my life. I praise God for her every day.

Last Day in Guangzhou

2009-09-29T09:42:00.002-04:00

Today was our last day in Guangzhou, and the only official business was to pick up Caroline's immigrant visa and passport.  I also have the official envelope to present to the Customs agent in Chicago.  Caroline becomes a U.S. citizen when she passes through Customs...amazing how that happens.

 Our coordinator took the group to the Pearl and Jade Market one more time as well as Shamian Island.  We had lunch at Lucy's and headed back to the hotel.   Caroline took a nap and we did some packing.  As I write this I'm still hoping that we can get everything packed.  We did buy an extra suitcase for Caroline.  It's full.

 TODAY CAROLINE WALKED ON HER OWN WITHOUT HOLDING ON TO ANYTHING!!  She is crawling, walking, giggling, acting silly and imitating me.  She is making 'kissing' sounds and I taught her how to blow a kiss.  She is starting to act like a 21-month-old.  To me, she looks like a different person than she did a week ago.

Today's picture was taken at Shamian Island in Lucy's.  She is doing what she loves to do - EAT.  The next time I post on the blog we will be at home in Marion, IN.   Our flight leaves tomorrow at 12:35 p.m. and we'll fly through Seoul, South Korea, then to Chicago.  Jim and Sue Sonnefield are picking us up at the Chicago airport at 5:30 on Wednesday.  I hope we have some friends and family greeting us at the International terminal of the airport...Asiana Airlines.

It's been an amazing journey, and we'll be glad to get home.

Oath at ACS and River Boat Tour

2009-09-28T20:52:00.003-04:00

Today was a LONG day.  We had to stay in our hotel room this morning to wait while my coordinator (David) took all of my important paperwork to the American Consulate.....if there was a problem, I would receive a phone call.  When the phone rang my heart jumped out of my body....but, it was just David telling me that all of my paperwork was fine.

We had our group picture at noon.....Caroline doesn't pose well with big groups...but we made it.  Then, at 3:00 we traveled to the American Consulate to take the oath.  This was the culmination of such a long process and it was very emotional.  I doubt that I will be able to talk about it without tearing up.  Adoptive families stood, raised our right hand (most of us were holding our children) and repeated the oath.  At the end I cried like a baby because Caroline is now truly mine.  She is absolutely my daughter.  *tears in eyes right now*

At 5:30 we went on a River Boat Cruise on the Pearl River in Guangzhou. We didn't really enjoy the food, but the cultural experience was fun The big story here was when the food came.  Caroline was sitting on my lap because there were no 'baby' chairs.  They brought a traditional Chinese bowl and spoon with noodles and rice.  I started to feed Caroline but she took this spoon and started to feed herself.....she then took the bowl off of the table.  I tried to put the bowl back on the table but Caroline became hysterical.   She evidently thought I was taking the food away from her.  We ended up putting the bowl in her lap. She then ate from that bowl for the rest of the evening, barely getting any rice or noodles on that spoon.   I tried to help scoop rice on her spoon.   We all realized that this is how she was used to eating.....probably given a bowl of noodles or rice and told to feed herself.  Then, they probably took the bowl away from her when she was still hungry because she wasn't able to get much food on that spoon.   I think that this particular type of bowl and spoon reminded her of her life before adoption.   Learning more every day about this precious girl.  I love her so much.

Our Day in Pictures

2009-09-27T21:59:00.004-04:00

Today has been a good day.  We started the day with a leisurely shopping trip to Shamian Island.  Mom, Anne, Kristen, Caroline, and I took a cab to the island.  We ended up at Starbucks (again) for a snack.  This afternoon I met with the other adoptive parents and our coordinators David and Elsie at the hotel to complete the seemingly endless paperwork that had to be done in order to get Caroline's immigrant visa.   While I was doing that, the girls all took a nap.  We ended the day with dinner in the hotel with another adoptive single mom from St. Louis and her little one.   Oh, and Caroline stood on her own today and started immitating sounds that I was making.  Caroline makes significant progress each and every day.

First time for Caroline to open a book.

Caroline giving us one of her sly smiles.

Evidence that 'Aunt' Annie fed Caroline whipped cream from her
frappucino at Starbucks.  Caroline liked it.

Anne, Kristen, Chris, Gerry, and Caroline at the White Swan Hotel
on Shamian Island.

Caroline wearing a hat.....it didn't stay on her head
very long but she looked cute in it.  The hat is a bit big, so
hopefully, she'll grow into it.

Medical Exam and More Breakthroughs

2009-09-26T10:46:00.002-04:00

Today we had to go to Shamian Island for Caroline's medical exam.   This was a bit traumatic for Caroline.  As soon as we walked toward the first exam room she saw the white coats and immediately started crying and hung on to me for dear life.  She has spent time in the hospital and has had to have follow-up tests in her young life so I understood why she was scared.  Thankfully, she did not need to have any shots.  I have to admit that this was just about as traumatic for me because I didn't like seeing Caroline so scared....I had to shed a tear as I watched.  But, the exam didn't take too long and we were 'out of there.'   We had time to do some shopping and eat lunch at Lucy's, a well-known restaurant among adoptive families.   We plan to go back to Shamian Island tomorrow by ourselves and just have some leisure shopping time.

Kristen Bowman, one of my former students who teaches music in Qingdao at an International School, arrived late last night and is spending four days with us.  She speaks Mandarin REALLY well and so when it came time to 'deal' for a better price on merchandise, Kristen did the job for me. I had so much fun hearing her speak Mandarin and 'work' those shopkeepers.

Breakthroughs for today:   1) more animation and more expression; 2) more smiles; 3) SHE STOOD UP AT THE SIDE OF THE CRIB.......and this afternoon when we returned from Shamian Island I just let her roll around on the floor and while we weren't paying attention to her, she started to stand up.  Oh my, we were thrilled!   4) she waved at me about 15 minutes ago.

Here is what I have decided about Caroline.......she is a serious girl who analyzes and thinks about everything.  She observes everything around her.   She has excellent fine motor coordination with her hands....a very precise and neat eater and can pick up the smallest crumb.   Caroline has one facial expression that just kills me....she looks out of the corner of her eyes at me and does this crooked smile - trust me, you'll melt when you see it.  Then, she has a big smile where she shows all of her pretty teeth.   One of these days I hope to get more pictures of both of those expressions.

Today's pictures are of the line-up for the medical exam on Shamian Island as well as a picture of Anne, our 'sherpa' for the day.  You'll notice that Anne is wearing her Vera Bradley backpack on the front....this is the Chinese way of doing things.....very stylish, don't you think?   Oh, and we found the Starbucks on the island....yes, Caroline loves a mocha frappacino....don't worry, I didn't give her the whole thing....just a sip - but she loved it.

Hot at the Zoo, and Time to Chill

2009-09-25T15:46:00.004-04:00

Our only 'official' activity today was to go to the Guangzhou Zoo. Thankfully, we went in the morning so it wasn't quite as hot....but trust me...it was plenty hot outside today - 93 degrees.  We opted to pay for a 'golf cart' type vehicle and a driver that took us to all of the major exhibits of the zoo.  Boy are we glad that we did that!  It was a nice morning and the zoo was beautiful.   We came back to the hotel, ate a snack, then it was nap time....for all of us.   It takes several days to get adjusted to the 12-hour time difference and we are not quite there yet.

 At dinner tonight we sat next to a couple from South Africa.  They were such a nice couple and were taken with Caroline.  They have been traveling for a month to different countries and are in China for potential business interests.  They asked question after question about the adoption process and by the end of the conversation they have pretty much decided to adopt from China, even after I told them about the long wait.

Today Caroline was more relaxed, more animated, and seemed stronger physically.  She is still somewhat withdrawn, but continues to come out of her shell day by day.  She still won't walk, but I'm not stressing over it.  We think that this is just a coping mechanism.   I know that she can walk.  She has definitely been potty trained....so getting the potty chair was a good idea.  She still wears diapers, but I'm guessing that they trained her to go potty at certain times of the day.  We are still trying to figure out when those times are  :)   We are not pushing it, but are giving her 'opportunities' to go.  (This is a whole new experience for me to be writing about 'potty' training!!!).

Tomorrow we meet the rest of the Children's Hope agency travel group. There are a total of 14 families who have traveled to several provinces in China and are now gathering in Guangzhou for the last part of the process.  I'm anxious to meet them because several of us have corresponded via email as we prepared to travel.

Big breakthrough...and Buddhist Temple

2009-09-24T10:36:00.003-04:00

Today, Caroline started playing with a toy.  We have been trying to engage her in toys, books, etc., but she would just sit and stare.  We decided (based on recommendation from Anne's friend) that perhaps Caroline was getting too much stimulus......an overload.   So, this morning I took Caroline to a quiet room on our floor where there is lots of floor space.   I took only one toy and we sat on the floor together. At first I modeled 'playtime' for her....her eyes followed every move that I made.  Then, I just moved back a bit to see what she would do...and she started picking up the toy and playing.  I cried.  This was a big deal.  And, to top it off, she was doing some vocalizing....a quiet hum.  Good stuff.  I am including a picture of Caroline playing with the toy.

 Our tour coordinator took us to a Buddhist Temple.  This was certainly my first time visiting a place like this.  The incense was very strong. It is an open area with many small temples.    We then went to a shopping area that was quite overwhelming.  The most interesting thing about this excursion is that I was stopped by a group of Chinese teenage girls who wanted to take a picture with me.  Then, a group wanted a picture with Anne.   I've always heard that they like to have their picture taken with foreigners...now I know it's true.

 Tomorrow....the Guangzhou Zoo.   And, the rest of our tour group arrives tomorrow.  I'm very excited to meet them and their kiddos.

Several Breakthroughs Today!

2009-09-23T12:32:00.003-04:00

Milestones accomplished today by Caroline:   1) She smiled at least 10 times and showed her teeth...yay for big smiles; 2) she giggled; 3) She decided to be a big girl and sat up and even stood today....I watched her walk toward me on Gotcha Day so I know she can walk;  4) she is closer to playing with toys today...we are thinking that she was never given toys to play with by herself....she doesn't know what to do with them; 5) she likes to shop (like her Momma)....when we went to the Carrefour (their version of Walmart) she lit up and smiled and was really engaged...she was a little flirt; 6) she is starting to learn the sign for 'eat'....and demonstrated it several times when she wanted another bite....she's a good eater and food seems to be a good motivator for her; and, 7) she peed and pooped in the potty chair....that's a major deal!

The main thing that Caroline struggles with are 'transitions'......any kind of change cause her to cry.  If I am holding her, but I move, or if we move from one room to another....any change scares her.  That is totally understandable, so we know that with time this will improve. Also, in the picture of Caroline in the high chair, you'll notice that she is holding on to a blue object.  That is an 'egg shaker', a little 'percussion' instrument.   She holds on to that shaker from the time she wakes up to the time she goes to bed....well, actually, she is still holding on to it and she is asleep.   That is attributed to being a 'hoarder'....very natural in her situation.  If you are afraid that something might be taken away from you....food, or a toy, you hold on to it for dear life.  That is what she's doing with the egg shaker.  We are guessing that food was taken away from her before she was full....and that perhaps she's never had anything that truly belonged to her. Therefore, she holds on to the shaker.  That's OK....soon, she'll learn that she doesn't have to hoard things.

Today's pictures are from the restaurant at the China Hotel where we eat the breakfast buffet every morning; and the Guangzhou Orchid Garden. Included in one of the pictures is Anne Miller, one of my closest friends who arrived in Guangzhou on Monday just before I received Caroline.  Tomorrow we are visiting a Buddhist Temple and a shopping market.

Last thing.....our official business today was applying for Carolines registration and visa.

Adoption is Finalized....and Transition Time

2009-09-22T09:54:00.004-04:00

Today was the day that my adoption was finalized in China.  I had to have my picture taken with Caroline, then I had to be interviewed, fill out a bit more paperwork, then meet with the notary to answer the same questions, and sign papers.  That went smoothly.

We are thrilled with Caroline.  She is very shy and still doesn't trust....that will come with time.  I am happy to say that she has bonded with me and doesn't want me out of her sight....and she wants me to hold her all of the time.  I'm happy to accommodate her! She can certainly walk, so we are hoping that she will decide to demonstrate that skill in the next day or two.

Caroline smiled today!   About 4 times today she cracked a smile.....so sweet!   She loves to be touched and caressed.  When I put her to bed, she continues to rock herself to sleep, so she is a self-soother.  so, hopefully, when she knows that I'll soothe her by rocking her to sleep she won't feel the need to rock herself.  She has also attached herself to a little stuffed animal....it is a 'Beposh' brand striped monkey. She has to have that at all times.....so when I return home I better get another one just like it in case she loses this one.  I can recall a certain cousin who couldn't be without her 'Puffy'.....and when that Puffy was lost, there was a mad dash to find another one.  I don't want to do the 'mad dash.'

Enjoy the pictures from today.

Words Cannot Describe

2009-09-21T20:46:00.002-04:00

So, I'll let the pictures tell the story of my Gotcha Day, Sept. 21, 2009.

Walk in the Park (pictures)

2009-09-20T17:39:00.002-04:00

Chris standing next to one of the many statues at the Liuhuahu Park.

Mom sitting by one of the ponds and a couple of ladies who were cleaning the area in Liuhuahu Park.

Our hotel, Marriott China Hotel

Walk in the Park

2009-09-20T15:02:00.002-04:00

Today we decided that it was time to venture outside of the hotel again. We thought it best to go right after breakfast due to the heat.   We walked a total of about 4 blocks away to the Liuhuahu Park.  On our walk we passed by some a couple of fish markets (you can imagine the smell).....Mom doesn't like fish anyway, so she really turned up her nose at them!  I will say that there were some interesting looking fish that you won't find in the Walmart seafood department.   When we arrived at the park, there were many Chinese families strolling the walkways. If the temperatures hadn't been so hot, we would have stayed longer. We were drenched by the time we got back to the hotel.....no wonder, it was 97 degrees and high humidity. We did find a luggage shop on the way back where we bought Caroline's suitcase for a very good price.

As I write this, it is 2:25 a.m. on Monday morning (I'm still trying to adjust to the time change).  I will receive Caroline in just about 12 hours.  My life will never be the same (*big smile*)....please be thinking of us as we meet for the first time.  Caroline will probably be quite scared and apprehensive to go with this blonde-headed lady that she doesn't know....along with two other blondies....Mom and Anne.

Some pictures from Sunday's stroll will be posted soon.

'Chillin' in Guangzhou

2009-09-19T08:29:00.001-04:00

Today was a day to 'chill' and catch up on much needed rest.  Mom and I stayed in the hotel most of the day.  We ventured outside for a short walk, but since we really don't know where we are going, and because it is quite hot here, we decided to head back to the hotel and enjoy the amenities there.

At breakfast I met three American families who had already experienced their 'Gotcha Day'.....such sweet babies.  I asked them a few questions about the eating habits of the babies....apparently they are eating everything in sight.  Also, one of the families that now lives in Louisville are natives of Indiana....the wife is originally from Peru and the husband from Kokomo.  It really is a small world.

 Two days until Gotcha Day.  I would just like to fastforward to Monday, please.

Made It To Guangzhou!

2009-09-18T08:31:00.001-04:00

Mom and I arrived in Guangzhou on Friday, Sept 18 at 11:20 a.m......that's 11:20 p.m. on Thursday night in Indiana.  The 14-hour flight to Seoul wasn't our favorite thing to do....but again, we made it just fine.  We are staying at the Marriott China Hotel in Guangzhou on the 17th floor.  Guangzhou has a population of 12 million people.....that's BIG!

We were met at the airport by a hotel staff person who took us to our driver.....very easy!   Our adoption agency Guangzhou coordinator's name is David and we also met him today.  He is very nice and we look forward to becoming friends.

Mom and I opted to get the upgrade to the executive floor of the hotel so that we could have access to an executive lounge area that is always stocked with snacks.  I think this will be nice to take Caroline there so we can sit on the floor and play.....the lounge even as a Wii......perhaps someone will teach me how to play.

As soon as we arrived in our room, the crib was delivered.  It's really coming true!   Monday at 2:15 p.m. I get to meet my daughter for the very first time!  That's Monday morning at 2:15 a.m. Indiana time.

OK, time to rest.  We are both pooped.

Leaving Tomorrow for China

2009-09-15T22:41:00.003-04:00

I can't believe that Mom and I are leaving for China tomorrow....unbelievable. Praying that God will keep us safe and healthly as we travel. Chicago to Seoul, South Korea to Guangzhou.

Thank you, Wind Ensemble Ladies!

2009-09-13T18:31:00.002-04:00

The ladies of the Indiana Wesleyan University Wind Ensemble held a shower for me....organized and hosted by Lindy. It was so nice to be with them and talk about the adoption process and what my life will be like for the next couple of weeks. They gave such lovely and wonderful gifts! I love my ladies of the wind ensemble.

Leave in THREE DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gotcha Day in EIGHT DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Caroline's Room and New Clothes

2009-09-10T23:19:00.006-04:00

Caroline's clothes to wear while in China

Caroline's bedroom dresser..and lots of butterflies

The new crib

The rocking chair was mine when I was a little girl.

First Day of Classes

2009-09-08T22:06:00.003-04:00

Today was the first day of classes at Indiana Wesleyan University. I have to say that my mind isn't really on school right now!!!!! I'm going through the motions, but my mind and heart are in China. I'll only teach for one week before we leave for China....then after we return with Caroline, I'm taking the rest of the semester off.....thank you, God, for paid family leave. I'll get back to school in January.

Some of my colleagues are taking research sabbaticals. I think I'm taking the best sabbatical of them all......bonding with my little Caroline at home until January.

Children's Sermons

2009-09-06T11:49:00.001-04:00

It hit me today that in four Sundays I will be taking Caroline up to the front of the church for her very first 'Children's Sermon.' Wow.

Getting Ready to Go to China!

2009-09-05T22:38:00.003-04:00

The new fingerprint expiration date documents arrived in the mail on Friday. Perhaps you heard the big sigh of relief from me! Thank you so much, Officer Krieger for getting this done!

I booked our flights yesterday. We are flying from Chicago to Seoul, South Korea, to Guangzhou.

I can now start to get excited and have fun preparing for the trip. I have a HUGE pile of things that I plan to pack (not including clothes)....it is a mountain of stuff! But, it includes all of the recommended medicines, baby formula, baby snacks, 'mommy and grandma' snacks, gifts for the nannies and officials, potential medications for me (and mom), and toys for Caroline. We even need to take tissues with us...apparently restaurants and restrooms don't commonly keep tissues handy!

AND, today Mom and I made a trip to the Indianapolis Babies R Us in Greenwood to purchase the crib/toddler bed/mattress (had to drive 2 hours to get it), and a baby gate for the top of the stairs. We are going to hold out to get other needed things until after upcoming 'Caroline' showers.

Still pinching myself. Is it really happening?

Going to China in September - Oh My Gosh!

2009-08-28T21:43:00.002-04:00

The good Lord takes us down curvy paths sometimes....and the last 48 hours have been curvy for sure. But ultimately, God is in control....God is good, ALL THE TIME.

All along I thought I'd be traveling in October. The plan was for Anne and I to make the trip together and Mom would stay home. WELLLLLL..........we are now traveling Sept 17-30, and Mom is now going along with Anne. Very stressful couple of days, but I'm now feeling some relief that we now have a plan. Oh my goodness, SO MUCH TO DO.

Mom and I had a very nice visit with Maryann and her beautiful daughter Bella, and Jennifer and her gorgeous daughter Malia...both girls are Caroline's age and from China. It was wonderful connecting with these moms and to see little ones who will be special friends of Caroline.

I'm still a little shell-shocked that I'm actually traveling in less than 3 weeks and I will meet my precious Caroline in 23 days.